Sunday, September 13, 2009

BLOGGER

Weird......

Starting at my September 5 the post, you can not see the "comment", it is hidden.
When you mouse over it becomes visable.
Just different.
Wonder why?

fixed it.

BLOG BACKGROUNDS, found one and I like it.

Now, I need some Fall / Autumn pictures.
However, the season is not quite there yet.

I really like this one, as a lead in to the Halloween and Thanksgiving seasons.
It is colorful but not over bearing.
It looks like autumn not just a single holiday.
It is also simple enough that one can add some color accented extras and dress it up a bit.

Well I like it very much.
Got it at the CUTEST BLOG ON THE BLOCK.

Friday, September 11, 2009

WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?

JUST TO BE HONEST AND UP FRONT ABOUT ME..........

Their is NOTHING that upsets or bewilders me more about the human species than how we disrespect, gossip, back stab, lie and invade the privacy of another. What we do as human beings...to each other, is nauseatingly cruel, greedy and self serving.
Yet some how, within this sick behavior, others seem to gain a great deal of self sadisfaction and self admiration from the pain of another.

Why would someone be out and out mean?
Why would someone take it upon themselves to fabricate lies and tales of terror?
Why do people brag about their insane ability to be hard, cruel and uncaring?
Why is it some how a virtue to let the less fortunate go without?
Why is personal success and self elevation gleaned from another's misfortune?
Why do people love to flaunt their success in front of those who have less?

I REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS AT ALL.

Thursday, September 10, 2009

PUBLIC OPTION STILL BREATHING!

Well,
their may still be hope for the
PUBLIC OPTION
after all!
THANKS JOE WILSON!!
and I thought I had a bad week at work...
sheesh.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

LIKE TAKING QUIZES? HERES A GOOD SITE.

http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/autism.htm


This is an autism test. I scored 37, very high and no big surprise.

What is your score?

There are a bunch of other quizes as well.
I love these things.

Saturday, September 5, 2009

MY BLOG.....

I do not think posting
my opinions
on my blog
about issues I am concerned about
is a bad thing.

I am sorry if people get upset.
I just want people to get health care if they need it.
I do not want people to lose insurance coverage
only to go broke trying to pay for treatment the insurace companies will not pay for.

It is too bad.
There is no way I can even think of health insurance for my family.
I can not afford it...
We have always worked very hard,
So have many other people.

They can not afford it.

Friday, September 4, 2009

PUBLIC OPTION DEAD?

Look at the happy insurance companies.
Why are they smiling?
$$$
The old conspiracy theories have created a fearful few.
Ah, feel the fear from the fairy tales.
To think...death panels.
Really frightening.
Just what is a death panel?
Where exactly are these death panels?
Apparently, the beloved public option is dead. Kaput!
Now...somebody has to clean up the poop.

Do not cry about it later when YOU can not pay your hospital bills.
Your insurance has become unaffordable.
Your insurance turns you down.
Your insurance denies you coverage for a needed treatment.
Your insurance premiums are just too high.
You are dropped because you get seriously ill.
Not to mention, you have been laid off from your $20.00/hr job
and are now making $10.00/hr,
and your wife has breast cancer.
Without insurance.
But hey! If you go bankrupt...
Well, that's okay.
Right?


FIGHT OR FLIGHT...........?

( Please, do not get all technical with this. Of course there ARE situational exceptions)


I have decided.......

When choosing "fight or flight",

FLIGHT IS THE WRONG CHOICE.

It feels better for a minute but with it comes disappointments in ones self.

It is harder to fight and sometimes hurts.

One may not do a great job of it as one may be unskilled.

However, a person does learn that way.

Doing things differently IS so uncomfortable.

ONE CAN remain charitable and kind without being the worlds door mat.

Thursday, September 3, 2009

YOU ARE TOO NICE...BEING ASPIE.

Sometimes things go well.
Sometimes they do not.

Sometimes everything just cruises along.
Sometimes out of no where, for no reason it becomes like a freight train hitting a wall,
and you are the wall.

They people around you decide you are vulnerable and that perhaps you judgement on certain things are bad.
You look around and say to yourself,
"What has changed"?
You are not a mind reader.

God, please....
If there IS a lesson you are trying to teach me,
let me learn it fast.

Peoples main complaints are "You are too nice".
This is a complaint I hearing often.
Also,
"Why didn't you do...."
Because it never mattered before.
All the sudden things are different?

Where are the lines drawn?
Maybe I am too Aspie to do certain things effectively that I would like to do.
Maybe there IS a point where one must say,
"I am too passive" or
"I need to do a job with clear lines drawn".
"Maybe I am too compassionate".
"Maybe I care too much about what other people think".
"Maybe I REALLY AM TOO NICE".

How?
How, does a person like myself, become able to judge accurately a totally subjective situation?
How, does a person like myself, know when a "line" has been crossed...
when it has never been acceptable to you in the first place?
How does a person like myself develop a method for dealing with mixed messages.
Because I really do not know,
how a person, like myself changes, from being "too nice"?
When is it a flaw in the persons personality?

On the other side of the coin,
When is a person too mean or too harsh?

Personalities are so complex.
What is acceptable one day, is not accepted the next day.

Too me...
a person is mean or a person is nice.
They are telling the truth, or they are lieing.
It is really pretty cut and dry.

More and more,
I really believe NT persons are expecting the impossible.
Where is the clear definition?
How do you know when enough is enough?
How, can a person "color in the lines" when there are no lines...
How does a person just figure that out on their own?
How do you know?

Sometimes
I really want to turn tail and run from stronger personalities, cower.
Sometimes
I have been told to be gentler, not so harsh...
Only to turn around and be told...in the same circumstance, mind you...
You are not being forceful enough or harsh enough.

Maybe I should just go back to being a security officer.
Pretty cut and dry.
I did it for two and a half years.

I am vividly realizing just how inept I am at dealing with people.
I am, for the first time, dreading work today.

I am too nice and care too much about what other people think.
I am looking for another job ASAP.
Try to find one better suited to my "personality"...
What ever that is.

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

UNPROFESSIONAL SUGGESTIONS ON ABUSE...

Just as a close to my prievious rantings........

My very unprofessional advice is:

1. Recognise the person is in a vulnerable situation.

2. Offer comfort and support...listen.

3. Recommend social service agencies, DV shelters and DV counselors.

4. Give CONTROL to the abused person.

5. Allow them to decide what they will do.

6. DO NOT attempt to tell the person what to do.

7. DO NOT defend or make excuses for an abuser.


If anyone reading this is a professional.........offer comments, corrections or suggestions please.